I’m Not in Love with the City of Love

I hate Paris.

Okay, sorry, let’s back up. What do you think of when you think of Paris? Twinkling lights? Love? Walks along the Seine? Mary Kate and Ashley frolicking through Montmarte in Passport to Paris? (SORRY! I JUST LOVE THEM!)

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For someone who lives a 2 hour train ride away, it is surprising that I’ve only been a couple of times. My first visit was in 2012 during my first study abroad program. I had amazing company (shout out to my now-bridesmaid Christina), but the weather was pretty terrible and my most vivid memory is of a man peeing on the street.

I went back this past summer, and I tried to go in with an open mind. Maybe my first experience of Paris was only a symptom of the poor weather and not how Paris is in reality. Maybe I was too harsh on it the first time around. After all, there is such a thing as “Paris syndrome” where Japanese tourists have to be treated for SHOCK when Paris isn’t the same city they expected. Maybe I was suffering my own version of this bizarre medical malady?

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Turns out, I wasn’t.

I’m just not in love with Paris.

Of course, I’m not immune to the gorgeous views in Luxembourg Gardens. Yes, being under the Eiffel tower while it’s twinkling at night is enough to make me want to run around screaming “Bonjour!” to everyone I know. Sitting next to the river with a baguette and slice of cheese in hand is definitely appealing.

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But I can’t fall in love with it like I’ve done so many other cities. It’s just not my style. And here’s why.

1. Unhelpful Parisians

There is a quote that goes something like, “Paris would be great if it wasn’t for all the Parisians.” While that sounds incredibly insensitive, my own experiences with Paris’ local residents has given me reason to think it’s slightly true. The French culture is very famously proud of their language, and knowing that, I worked to learn a bit of conservational French words before going so I could at least get around. But once I got into a more complicated conversation that I couldn’t follow, all love was lost.

I felt that many people wouldn’t make an effort to try and understand me or make gestures so I could understand them, and instead I was met with condescending looks. And, okay, I get it. It’s annoying when a tourist doesn’t speak your language. But I then returned to London to experience a Transport for London staff member working incredibly hard to communicate with a tourist who didn’t speak English, and it made the difference even more apparent. I left with the impression that Parisians are rude and unhelpful, and while I’m sure there are plenty of lovely Parisians out there, I didn’t find many to help me break that stereotype.

2. What’s that smell?

Paris stinks. Literally, it stinks. Okay, it doesn’t smell everywhere, but especially in the heat of the summer, many parts of Paris smell like garbage. And urine. And sweat. I felt that the streets were also a lot dirtier than many large European cities, and everything felt covered with a healthy dose of grime. Again, this wasn’t a factor everywhere in Paris, and many cities do have zones that are more or less looked after, but the smells and dirt seemed to follow me around the city more than I would have liked.

3. A City of Chaos

I’m beginning to show the British in me here, but Paris felt chaotic to me, and not in a good way. People frequently jump over the barriers to the Metro to get on without paying, it wasn’t uncommon to have accordion players or karaoke sessions take place on the trains, and it was just all a bit much. I’m sure this noise is what gives the city ‘life’ to some people, but I was all like, “There is no way the Queen would stand for this nonsense! Get in line and quiet down!”

I realize, of course, that this may make me sound ungrateful, uncultured, or a bit of both. Saying “I hate Paris” is a bit of a bold thing to say! I’m open to my mind being changed about Paris, but for now, I’m happy to continue exploring other places.

What do you think about Paris? Have you been?

4 Responses

  1. I’ve always loved Paris. The architecture and art is what does it for me. I once spent 4 hrs by myself in the Louvre and only stopped because I was starving! However, the last time I was in Paris during the summer I noticed, the dirt and the smells which I hadn’t when I had visited in previous years. As for Parisans, some are nice and some live up to the stereotype. I’ve been fortunate when there to have people help me with directions and a chef cook a vegetarian sandwich for me when his kitchen was almost closing. Having said that – you’ll never find a friendly city than London. I mean where else do the police help lost tourists?!

  2. Samantha says:

    Very interesting reasons. The first time I went to Paris, I actually thought I would hate it, but completely fell in love and have been there 4 times due to my love of it. I agree with your reasons, Paris does smell gross and it is pretty hectic, but for some reason, I looked past those and found a city of beauty and each time I’ve been back has been magical. Maybe it’s not the place for you though, and that’s okay!

  3. You know, I totally agree with you! People think I am bonkers but seems that I am not the only one haha! I totally agree with all the points you made (especially no 1). Okay, Paris is pretty in pictures, the wine is nice and but that’s about it. x

  4. Stephanie says:

    I’m from Paris and I feel so sorry right now! I cannot deny what you said, lots of people are just unhelpful (either they’re busy, either they don’t care) and it’s not only with tourists … of course it’s not all of us! I’m always happy to help even if I’m in a hurry 😉 (and even in English or in body language!!)
    Paris is dirty, yes. Not everywhere. And we’re not proud. I don’t know why that is: not every cities in France are like that but why does it have to be our capital city?? 😀
    Chaos: I think when you live there you don’t even pay attention to that anymore. People jumping from the barriers are just assholes. I’m not gonna talk about “singers” or “musicians” in the metro, as I would have to write an essay about poverty, refugees (it didn’t begin with Syria) and everything. Just know that you’re not the only one being surprised or tired with this.

    However I think Paris does have qualities. France has beautiful places and I think Paris is one of them. Architecture is great. Culture is great. Theater, music, are great. We have so many venues for music and theater, and it’s what I’m most in love with. This city has so much to offer that I’m always a bit sad when visitors have this bad image. But you’re right, maybe Paris is just not for you!

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